I found out much later that him and his girlfriend had just recently split and he was having a really tough go of it.
Something Darling has observed about her own work, which frequently focuses on an approachable girlfriend or girl-next-door experience, is how reticent many men are to connect with people in real life or go to therapy and divulge their sexual insecurities to a mental health professional.
I didn't know much about this kind of work, I had no idea what it meant to be a cam model, or how to act in front of a camera. "You wouldn’t hire your lawyer and start jerking off in front of them. You wouldn’t go to your accountant and start asking them if it’s OK to want to jerk off to feet. Whether it’s tube sites hosting their paid video clips on free platforms without their consent, or a conversation that goes too long in the DMs, some so-called fans are forever seeking new ways to get the same content for less money. It’s a way to connect with people online who happen to be into the same stuff you are, in a welcoming environment. Another ManyVids model, Destiny Diaz, told me that her fans are usually very respectful, and that it’s extremely important to her to establish those boundaries, even from behind a webcam.